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obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 17:20:06
Are we for or against it? Let's say it is a several year long romance and the husband in this equation is sort of a pussy.
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 17:20:28
and no, i am not going after the husband.
hood
Member
Sat Mar 02 17:40:26
If you're chasing her, don't be a dick. If she's coming onto you, she's gonna find strange somewhere so whether it's you or someone else is not very material.
tumbleweed
the wanderer
Sat Mar 02 17:45:19
are there children? ages?

does the guy seem like someone who may come back in the future to make you learn about loss?
Average Ameriacn
Member
Sat Mar 02 17:53:29
Is it true love?
Is she white?
Is she a Trump supporter?
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 18:11:49
she is persian, no kids, ive kept ending it, she keeps coming back into my life. she is younger than me by a few years, 26 i think.
tumbleweed
the wanderer
Sat Mar 02 18:23:05
is anyone muslim?
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 18:25:34
he is a fucking raghead, she is zorastrian on paper but really agnostic with, according to her now, open to becoming christian.
hood
Member
Sat Mar 02 20:28:40
A persistent bugger, huh? An altogether different issue.

I would still say you're clear of any moral qualms. She's clearly initiating it; you aren't at fault. However if you're looking for anything permanent, I can't help but feel like she's more likely to continue being unfaithful unless you are somehow the one and only for her. Take a stab or two if that is your whim. Caution any commitment.
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 22:00:47
thanks buddie
tumbleweed
the wanderer
Sat Mar 02 22:28:26
if the guy is praying 5 times a day i'd say you're playing w/ fire
hood
Member
Sat Mar 02 22:39:11
With islam it's like a coin flip as to whether the husband would seek revenge on the wife or the ... what's the male version of a mistress? the histress?
McKobb
Member
Sat Mar 02 22:42:03
Makes me miss Heba!
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 23:13:12
he won't do anything. at least i don't think so and neither does she. he cries a lot and that is why she married him as a kid. cause he is a shithole who used his position as a professor's assistant to lure her in when she was 18 and he was pushing 30. what he did is illegal in america but it is common practice in Iran. so I really find it hard to feel guilty about the situation. but hood makes a good point about trusting her not to do the same thing to me a few years down the road, i think she is worth the risk.
obaminated
Member
Sat Mar 02 23:14:50
and if he does something i guess you will all hear about some hollywood guy getting shot to death along with his iranian girlfriend from her disgruntled terrorist ex husband. so i got that going for me. which is nice.
TJ
Member
Sat Mar 02 23:55:16
Beware of the crier, because you won't see him coming. lulz
hood
Member
Sun Mar 03 00:38:25
Good luck. Just don't come here an hour into a boozed pity party complaining about the treachery of women, a la rugian. ;)
Im better then you
2012 UP Football Champ
Sun Mar 03 01:17:08
Best sex of my life was with married women. Just think what would Donald Trump do?
obaminated
Member
Sun Mar 03 02:34:49
um... yeah, im probably going to have sex with her again and ill not think about trump which is super odd to do
Average Ameriacn
Member
Sun Mar 03 04:04:13
"ive kept ending it"

So you don't love her? Look for another woman.
Rugian
Member
Sun Mar 03 12:28:07
If you're not the one who's responsible for their marriage being a failure, then it's still vaguely scummy but overall acceptable. We will blame you if you end up driving the husband to terrorism though.
Rugian
Member
Sun Mar 03 12:30:30
And in no way should this advice be construed as giving the green light for you to start pressuring married women in your employ to sleep with you.
Paramount
Member
Sun Mar 03 12:42:46
Women can’t keep quiet about their extramarital affairs. They tend to tell their husbands/boyfriends eventually. It’s just a matter of time. When the husband finds out, he is going to stab your throat. Maybe he will hire a hitman. Either way, you are dead.
TJ
Member
Sun Mar 03 12:43:19
You are thinking of the wrong type of pressure. She seems to be a willing release vent. ;)
jergul
large member
Sun Mar 03 13:27:08
In my experience, being a dick is best done on a short and sweet basis. Try to be a decent human being in more long term contexts.

So, no, it does not sound like a plan to me.
hood
Member
Sun Mar 03 13:47:19
"And in no way should this advice be construed as giving the green light for you to start pressuring married women in your employ to sleep with you."

8/10.
TJ
Member
Sun Mar 03 14:51:43
"yeah, im probably going to have sex with her again"

"ive kept ending it, she keeps coming back into my life."

"she is zorastrian on paper but really agnostic with, according to her now, open to becoming christian."

"i think she is worth the risk."

It seems that there is nothing new for her in the situation. Do you know how many other males she occasionally provides attention?

This thread is hilarious.
chuck
Member
Mon Mar 04 12:35:42
It's pretty simple - if you feel like you're being a dick, you probably are.

Either you asked UP about this because you wanted to brag that at some point in the indeterminate future you might get laid or because you feel like you're being a dick. Principle of charity, I'll assume the second.

I'm also going to assume the talk about what her religion is or isn't means you're imagining long term plans with her, because if "willing to convert to Christianity" is your criteria for fuck buddies then you're a whacko.

If you're thinking long term plans with a girl who is trying to fuck you before she's even left her current dude, you're making a mistake. Best case you're a side piece and kind of a dick (see: "vaguely scummy"). Worst case, you end up with her and X years from now she's telling the same story about you (say, "I was vulnerable, my marriage had just ended, he doesn't mean anything to me"), and you'll never get that time back.

Best to steer clear.
Nimatzo
iChihuaha
Tue Mar 05 08:30:53
What chuck said and I will add, that line about ”I am bla bla but open to converting to another religion”. More than her being unfaithful this tells me she is a lost and confused individual who is oblivious to the concepts ”long term committment” and ”loyalty”.
Paramount
Member
Tue Mar 05 09:54:26
"this tells me she is a lost and confused individual"


Do you think she needs to be disciplined and study Islam more to be able to get back on track?
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